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A persistent problem? - Change the solution!

You have an insomnia.

And what are you doing?

Do you try to fall asleep?

Does it work?

If not, what will you do tomorrow?

Will you try to fall asleep?

Why don't you try something different?

It seems that we tend to apply the same solution to the same problem. Even though it doesn’t work, we will continue to apply this solution. Why don’t we transcend banality, simplicity, evidence and logic and not approach creativity to generate alternative solutions?

If a problem persists for a long time, we would have to change the modus operandi and start acting differently. It’s not always easy to find alternatives. This search can be helped by family, friends or a specialist. Sometimes this journey to a new beginning and a positive change in your life is very exciting for you and your companions. It is understood that making the decision to change can be challenging, but with the right support and the right tools, you can achieve the well-being and personal fulfillment you long for.

Here are some examples of alternative solutions, which may seem radical, for more common persistent problems:

  • If you can’t sleep, instead of trying to fall asleep for hours, get up, leave the room and look at something boring on TV or clean the floor;

  • If your partner starts to raise his/her voice, you do the same and the conflict escalates quickly, try to be calm and listen carefully to your partner’s arguments trying to reach a compromise, instead of reaching a conflict;

  • If you talk about politics or religion with your friend or family member you always argue, do not touch these topics;

  • If you start a strict diet, then you fail, later you start doing another one, and again you fail, stop doing it. Analyze if there is something that causes you anxiety in life and try to eliminate it. Also try other methods, such as doing sports;

  • If you manage to quit smoking or drinking only a few days but then get back to your habit, look for pleasant activities that can replace a lack of drugs in your life;

  • If your partner rolls the tube of toothpaste and this irritates you, buy another toothpaste for yourself.

Every problem and every situation is different and it is necessary to adapt the solution to each specific case. What serves one may not work with others.

Some tips for identifying a persistent problem and making a change:

  1. Identify and Recognize the Problem: The first step in solving a persistent problem is to identify it and recognize its impact on your life. Often, we may ignore or deny the existence of certain challenges, but confronting them head-on is essential to finding a solution.

  2. Recognize Your Desire for Change: The next step toward meaningful change is recognizing that you want something different in your life. It is normal to feel some uncertainty, but it is also a sign that you are ready to grow and evolve. Allow yourself to explore your deepest goals and dreams, and don’t be afraid to aspire to something bigger.

  3. Understand the Underlying Causes: Behind persistent problems, there are often deeper causes. You can try exploring the emotional and psychological roots of the problem yourself or with the help of a psychologist. This understanding is essential to address the problem from the outset.

  4. Identify your Goals and Priorities: Change can be more manageable when divided into clear and achievable goals. Take time to identify what aspects of your life you would like to improve and set priorities. Whether in your relationships, career or emotional well-being, setting specific goals will help you stay focused and motivated.

  5. Overcome Your Fears and Barriers: Fear of change is natural, but don’t let it paralyze you. Identify obstacles that prevent you from moving forward and work on overcoming them. A psychologist can be a valuable resource to help you address and resolve your inner fears, providing you with strategies to face them bravely.

  6. Challenge Thought and Behavior Patterns: Thought and behavior patterns can maintain persistent problems in our lives. It is crucial to identify negative or unhealthy patterns and get strategies to challenge them and replace them with more positive thoughts and actions.

  7. Learn to Cope with Adversity: Facing persistent problems can be difficult, but learning to cope with adversity is an essential skill to overcome them. A psychologist will teach you coping and resilience techniques that will allow you to manage stress and difficulties more effectively.

  8. Cultivate Patience and Perseverance: Solving persistent problems can take time and effort. Cultivating patience and perseverance is key to maintaining focus and motivation throughout the process.

  9. Learn to Take Care of Yourself: The process of change can be emotionally demanding, so it is crucial to learn to take care of yourself along the way. Take time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies. Self-care is essential to maintain an emotional balance as you move toward your goals.

  10. Seek Professional Support: A psychologist can be your ally on this journey of personal change. Through therapy, you can explore your deepest emotions, understand your behavioral patterns, and receive guidance to overcome challenges. It will provide you with valuable tools so that you can cope with difficult times and stay on course for your new life.

The path of change can be exciting and enriching. By making the decision to transform aspects of your life, you are demonstrating a commitment to your personal growth and well-being. Do not forget that each step forward, however small, brings you closer to the most authentic and full version of yourself. Both your closest people and a psychologist can help you find other alternatives to your solution.

Do you have an example when you applied a creative solution to a persistent problem and it worked?


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